Losses

 

We lost some very precious teachers over the past months.  Fernando, the world’s most adorable donkey died unexpectedly this winter.  There were many tears shed as Fernando  brought joy to so many.  His absence can still be felt.

Our Beloved Fernando

 

 

 

We lost our playful feline clown, our beloved quirky  little Cole Daniel Bolo.  He was not feeling well but before we were able to bring him to the vet he disappeared.

Saryn, who with her son Ethan sponsored Cole Daniel, is holding the little guy the day he arrived.

The severe heat of the summer took a heavy toll in the chicken family:  we lost Amanda, Helen and Maude.  The circle of life can be a very difficult one to accept but harder to deny.  While our tears were still wet on our cheeks,  Samantha presented us with 6 healthy and adorable chicks.  New life has a way of reminding us that death and birth are tied together.

 

Maude, Shade's Mom, stately friend

 

Amanda, Elizabeth's special girl

Helen who ruled the roost with dedication

 

 

Animal Mediated Therapy- one reason it works!

Many of the young people who come to Farming Connections have had trouble making and keeping friends, getting along with others  —   including members of their own family.  It is not uncommon for people who do not feel comfortable around others to avoid looking at them directly – even when they are talking to someone.  This lack of eye contact makes it impossible for them to become good at reading the expressions and movements of others.

While one cannot go back and redo what happened in early childhood or modify genetic predispositions, it is possible to improve one’s ability to notice nonverbal cues and translate them.  Starting this communication education with animals makes it far less threatening than starting with peers or authority figures.  Animals, after all,  do not judge us they simply respond to us. Our farm teachers are quite good at letting us know how things are going.  Making a mad dash away from us is hard to miss or to misinterpret and a slobbery lick while trying to fit into your lap is equally transparent. While these behaviors are easy to read, more subtle animal speak can also be mastered.  This mastery and the accompanying self-confidence it brings can become a springboard to improvement in communication away from the farm.

Now what does that mean??

Below is an excerpt from an article that relates to how we can improve our ability to connect with others:

What do neuroscientists know about what happens in the brain when we are more “socially intelligent?”  One finding is that what one person does…exhibit empathy, for example… affects their own brain chemistry as well as the people around them. One person’s behavior “powerfully leverages the system of brain interconnectedness,” wrote Daniel Goleman and Richard Boyatzis, authors of “Social Intelligence and the Biology of Leadership” in September’s Harvard Business Review.

Scientists found the existence of “mirror neurons;” when we become aware of someone else’s emotions via his or her behaviors, our mirror neurons mimic those emotions. The neurons create an “instant sense of shared experience.

Intuition also is located in neurons called “spindle cells.” These make it possible for a super-rapid coming together of beliefs, emotions, and judgments that result in our first impressions of people we’ve just met.  It’s our social guidance system, Goleman and Boyatzis wrote.

The surprising thing to me about all this is that if you’re motivated to have more social intelligence, take heart. You can. Once you become aware that your SI quotient is low, you can  learn and practice new behaviors and thoughts, which lead to changes in emotions…”